Is Therapy Due a Correction? The Boom, the Drift, and the Coming Reset in Therapy Culture
Every industry that grows too fast forgets what made it valuable. Therapy is no exception. A recent article in The Cut exposed and criticised Internal Family Systems, or IFS, a therapeutic approach that has gone from niche to mainstream in record time. I’d always thought of it as harmless, even interesting, but reading those accounts […]
The Return of the Sacred: Psychedelic Therapy and the Longing for Depth
This essay is the final piece in a three-part series exploring how therapy both reflects and resists our cultural moment. In Part One, “Are We All Becoming Avoidantly Attached?”, I looked at our collective retreat from emotional discomfort. In Part Two, “The Validation Trap,” I examined how therapy itself can collude with that avoidance, offering […]
The Validation Trap: How Affirmation Therapy Threatens Depth
This essay is the second in a three-part series exploring how therapy both reflects and resists our cultural moment. In part one, “Are We All Becoming Avoidantly Attached?”, I looked at our growing tendency to flee emotional discomfort. Here, I turn to the rise of what I call “affirmation therapy”, a comfort-first approach that prizes […]
Are We All Becoming Avoidantly Attached? Emotional Withdrawal in the Digital Age
Attachment Theory and the Algorithmic Age Attachment theory, first developed by British psychoanalyst John Bowlby, has long been a cornerstone of psychotherapeutic thinking. It helps us understand how early relational experiences shape the ways we seek connection, handle conflict, and navigate intimacy. But in recent years, attachment language, including that of avoidant attachment, has gone […]
I Asked AI About Myself and it Told Me Exactly What I Wanted to Hear
The other day, I was chatting with an AI about my birth chart—just to see what it would say. My relationship with astrology is a complex one: part skepticism, part genuine curiosity, and a touch of humility before its archetypal language. To my surprise, the AI didn’t hesitate. It told me I was a priestess. […]
When Love Isn’t Enough: Personality and the Limits of Repair
Communication can carry us far, but not always to healing. This essay explores why some relationships cannot be repaired through communication alone-and what deeper self-understanding might offer instead.
Attachment Styles Aren’t the Full Story
Over the past year, I’ve noticed a shift in the therapy room. More and more, patients come in already fluent in the language of attachment styles. Within minutes, they’re telling me: “I have anxious attachment,” or “I think I’m avoidant.” These terms, once mainly used by therapists, are now part of everyday language. And they’re […]
Getting Ran Through for Clicks: A Psychotherapeutic Perspective on Lily Philips
I recently watched the YouTube documentary on Lily Philips, titled “I Slept with 100 Men in One Day.” It explores a 23-year-old British OnlyFans sex worker who went viral after having sex with 100 men in 14 hours. She invited the men to an Airbnb in London, offering each five minutes. The aftermath brought home […]
It’s Not a Bloody Trend: Understanding Life as an ADHD Adult-A Review
Helping people work on their executive functioning challenges is a significant part of my work as an ADHD coach and psychotherapist. While I don’t diagnose ADHD, I’m surrounded by it—whether through direct work with patients, conversations with colleagues, or ongoing training. This ADHD book review Recently, I came across a debate between Peter Hitchens and […]