Helping couples understand each other more deeply and create lasting change
You love each other—but lately, it might not feel like enough.
Maybe you keep having the same fight on repeat. Or the silence between you feels heavier than
words. Maybe one of you wants to reconnect, and the other isn’t sure it’s even possible.
Couples often seek counselling not because they’ve failed—but because something deeper is
asking to be seen. Behind the frustration, the shutting down, the criticism or distance, there’s
often a much older story—one shaped by vulnerability, longing, fear, and emotional history.
These cycles are painful—but they’re also workable. Through therapy, we can begin to slow them down, understand what fuels them, and begin to respond to each other from a place of vulnerability rather than protection.
As a couples therapist influenced by Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and trained in attachment theory and psychodynamic psychotherapy, I help partners move from disconnection and reactivity toward deeper emotional attunement and secure connection.
EFT is not about communication tips or surface-level compromise—it’s about understanding the
underlying emotional patterns that keep you stuck:
My approach combines the structure of EFT, the insights of attachment theory, and the depth of psychodynamic work. In practice, that means:
Not just what you argue about, but why it matters so much.
How each partner’s emotional history shapes the relationship.
On rebuilding trust and deepening connection—not just changing behaviour.
No matter what you’re navigating, couples therapy is a place to slow down, reconnect, and rebuild from the inside out.
We meet together in a safe and neutral space.
Early sessions focus on understanding your cycle—what triggers it, how it unfolds, and what each of you truly needs.
Over time, we move toward creating new emotional experiences in session moments of vulnerability, responsiveness, and connection.
You’ll also develop a shared language to talk about your patterns without blame or defensiveness.
In many couples, one partner is more verbal and emotionally expressive, quick to explain their side. The other may be quieter, more inward, or slower to process. Both ways of being need to be accepted and understood.
In my work, I treat the relationship as the client, not two individuals competing for understanding. My role isn’t to decide who’s right, but to help both partners feel seen, understood, and emotionally safe.
If one partner speaks more easily, I slow the pace so both voices can be heard.
Many couples don’t realize they’re reenacting old attachment wounds, until they find themselves in the middle of a shutdown or blow-up. Fears of being too much, not enough, abandoned, controlled, unseen, these are deeply rooted patterns that surface even in the healthiest of relationships.
With compassion and curiosity, couples therapy can become more than just symptom relief, it can become relational transformation.
Whether you’re on the verge of a breakup or simply want to feel closer and more secure, I offer a calm, structured space to begin the work. We start with a brief phone call to see whether we’d be a good fit to work together.
